I neglected to mention – J got a job!
He started about 3 weeks ago, working as a network engineer for Florida Hospital. It is a one year contract with potential for putting him into something long term.
So, while we still aren’t sitting in a situation where we have any certainty about the future yet (we still don’t even know what is going to happen with our house) we are in a better place then we were. And for that I am very grateful.